parenting, the rewards

This post is especially written for parents, who are wending their way along the very tricky path of raising children. It is one for which we were never formally prepared, managing to make it from one day to the next by sheer will power, and an abundance of trials and errors. We were fortunate if we could look to successful role models, but how many of us had that privilege? I congratulate those who did, because that’s what all of us aspire to being, great parents. But circumstances, including personal “baggage” we lug around, tends to hamper our good intentions. Nonetheless, we have no choice but to press on and do our best. How do we know when we’ve succeeded in parenting upstanding, future citizens, ones who will be compassionate in their relations with others? Having spent 3 weeks with my daughter, I know that all my best efforts as a parent were well-received, and “hit the mark.”

Perhaps children of any age who read this, will want to acknowledge their own parents’ struggle to get through each day. No amount of reading, or well intended advice can do the job for us. Of the several careers I’ve had, parenting is the most difficult, most gratifying, and by far the most rewarding. And here’s why.

In a card hidden in my carry-0n duffel, my daughter wrote:

‘I just wanted to say thank you so much for being with me these past several weeks. You are just what I needed… All of the little things you did meant so much. The wonderful meals, playing Bananagrams, watching movies and ‘I Love Lucy,” shopping, ‘girl’ talk, laughing, and your just being here supporting, loving and encouraging me, meant the world to me. You were there when I needed you and I know you always will be. You and Dad are the best parents, guides and friends I would ever ask for and I’m so blest to have you. I love you with all my heart, Mom.  Aloha wau i’a oe.” (I love you) …

hugs, for children, and their parents…hugmamma.

4 thoughts on “parenting, the rewards

    • That’s one of the greatest compliments I could receive, thank you. I wish you and your mom a long life enjoying the little things, the ones most meaningul in your lives, apart, and together.

      huge hugs for you both…hugmamma.


  1. Thank you for your comment. Am always glad to know there are others sharing the same path to being the best parents we can be, given our own personal histories. It isn’t always easy, but as you say, raising children is most rewarding. Gratification is immediate, even if it means making a few mistakes along the way. But they can make the reward even sweeter. God bless you as you continue on your journey.

    for moms like you, huge hugs…hugmamma.


  2. Thanks so much for sharing this. I am a parent of three, with the personal baggage you speak of, and I have struggled through the last 15 years to separate the two. In the course, I have a close relationship with all three of my children (15,12 and 10). Parenting is the most rewarding thing I have ever done.


hugs for sharing some brief thoughts...and keeping them positive

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