nurturing thursdays: believe in yourself

My daughter’s decided that her 2014 New Year’s resolution includes…ferocity.

As she moves forward in her quest to become a contemporary dancer, my daughter’s inner voice is at the helm.

In ballet, dancers are taught to fit within a standard. Rigorous training reinforces discipline which, in turn, often engenders a relationship similar to that of a parent and a child. On the one hand it is highly effective in perfecting a ballerina’s technique; on the other, it may be difficult for the ballerina to grow comfortably into her own skin.

Along with everything else, a ballerina must find a balance between what is expected of her and what she wants for herself. Unlike puzzle pieces, the two sides don’t always fit together neatly. In fact, finding the balance between the expectations of others and her own are most likely an ongoing effort. At some point, she either acquiesces and dances on auto-pilot…or moves on.

Every ballet dancer at each stage of her career, from student through professional, must decide whether or not the journey is worth the sacrifices and commitment. No one is holding her feet to the fire unless, of course, she’s the product of a stage mom. God help her if she is.

Change is not easy no matter the profession. A ballerina, however, once enamored of the classics…Romeo and Juliette…Sleeping Beauty…Swan Lake…finds it very difficult to sever the ties that bind her to the beauty she can spin as part of an ensemble.

And as any ballerina will tell you, it ain’t easy getting hired by a company in the first place. It’s true what they say. For every one there’s probably twelve more nipping at her heels, eager to have their go at it.

My daughter’s experience, while not perfect, was promising. Had she waited around another few years, she might have been challenged to do more solo roles. But with the passing of years, 11 to be exact, she finally decided it was time to sever the “parent-child” relationship. It had outgrown its purpose.

Moving into contemporary dance has been freeing. There are no father figures; there are no children. All are artists. The difference lies only in their abilities, their experiences, and their passion for dance.

My daughter feels she can get to the top of her game, no longer hindered by the trappings of the environment in which she dances. Rather than be told “when” and “how,” she’s been asked…”show us what ya got!” And she’s only too eager to comply.

Believing in herself and her passion for her art, my daughter is excited to be auditioning. This week it’s Los Angeles, next month it’s Germany, and in March it’s Chicago.

Fierce is my daughter’s new mantra. Nothing’s impossible since…

…she believes in herself!

………hugmamma.

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7 thoughts on “nurturing thursdays: believe in yourself

  1. At the age of eight my son started his training as a dancer, auditioning for the Royal Ballet School (on the advice of his teacher) when he was 11. He didn’t get in ~ but I was grateful for that, the pressure would have crushed for a perfectionist, asthmatic child. At 16 he was accepted by a dance~based performing arts college and went on to have an exciting career in musical theatre ~ which he loved and which suited him best. So kudos to your daughter for going with her heart and choosing freedom! not restriction ~ with such fierce self~belief she will succeed! 🙂

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    • Thank you so much for sharing this. I’ve not met another blogger whose child traveled a similar path as my daughter’s. A dancer’s journey, any artist for that matter, is so singular. No two paths are exactly the same because each dancer has her own “bag of tricks,” so to speak. In addition to their talents, they must see how best to adapt their personalities to the dance environment, especially the challenges that are inherent to ballet. My daughter is happier living her own life and dancing for the love of it. Not because she fits someone else’s mold. And I love that she lives outside the box…because that’s where I like to live. hugs for your warm words of support…

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hugs for sharing some brief thoughts...and keeping them positive

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