live your own life…not someone else’s…

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Simple advice from the man who is touted with changing the world in my lifetime…Steve Jobs. While he may have touched upon my life like the furthest ripple from where a pebble hits the surface of the still waters of a lake, Jobs words are more in sync with who I am, than those of family and friends who think they know me best.

Determining that they have my best interests at heart, siblings have, from time to time, made suggestions as to what I might want to do. That we’ve not seen one another in years doesn’t seem to matter. The old adage that “blood is thicker than water” may have something to do with it. And while that may be true literally, figuratively…I’m not so sure.

In striving to live healthfully I’ve learned that water is essential to my body’s machinery. Supporting me in this assertion is the following from the website USG.

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Think of what you need to survive, really just survive. Food? Water? Air? Facebook? Naturally, I’m going to concentrate on water here. Water is of major importance to all living things; in some organisms, up to 90% of their body weight comes from water. Up to 60% of the human body is water, the brain is composed of 70% water, and the lungs are nearly 90% water. Lean muscle tissue contains about 75% water by weight, as is the brain; body fat contains 10% water and bone has 22% water. About 83% of our blood is water, which helps digest our food, transport waste, and control body temperature. Each day humans must replace 2.4 litres of water, some through drinking and the rest taken by the body from the foods eaten. …

There just wouldn’t be any you, me, or Fido the dog without the existence of an ample liquid water supply on Earth. The unique qualities and properties of water are what make it so important and basic to life. The cells in our bodies are full of water. The excellent ability of water to dissolve so many substances allows our cells to use valuable nutrients, minerals, and chemicals in biological processes.

One brother suggested I author a story about a little, Hawaiian girl discovering the world beyond; a sister liked a recipe I’d posted and encouraged me to include more in my blog. I thanked both but felt neither was what I wanted to write about. And now in my 60s, I thought I had a pretty good idea as to who I am and what I want.

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It took me a long time to throw off the mantle of others’ expectations of me. Only when I became a mother, did I realize I didn’t want others meddling, however well-intentioned, in how I parented my only child. I was determined to raise her to be who she wanted to be, knowing that my husband and I would always support her with unconditional love.

Handing over the reigns of control to my daughter hasn’t always been easy. But I reflect on the long and difficult path to finding my own voice, and I’m grateful that my daughter has found hers at 25. She speaks to us almost daily, detailing things she wishes to share. We ask questions, but we don’t prod. We express our opinions, but assure her that she knows best because it’s she who lives her life, not us. We affirm the value of her decisions. And we empathize when things don’t occur as she thought they would.

Even in middle-age I looked to others for guidance. I called them role models, women aging gracefully. I thought for sure they had the secret to peace on earth. But I’ve come to realize that I can’t model myself after anyone. What works for another, probably won’t work for me because we’re different people. We’re the result of different parents, different experiences, different strengths and weaknesses, and different life views.

It’s uncanny how a man I never met, an icon, Steve Jobs, knew what was best for me…and millions of others.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

 Steve Jobs’ life should be a beacon for those who know in their heart what feels right for them. And my daughter is an example of someone who took up that torch…

…living her own life…with our love and blessing………hugmamma. 


the man from apple…”to infinity…and beyond!”

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I’m always in awe of those whose genius sets them apart from the rest of mankind…da Vinci, Edison, Shakespeare, and yes, Michael Jackson. Not just individuals, but empires like the Romans for their contributions, many of which improved our daily lives. My admiration also extends to persons who walk among us…doctors, airline pilots, chefs, scientists, astronauts.

In all actuality, I respect people who persevere…regardless of their career choices…my husband and my daughter among them. Or those who have a passion and pursue it…with a passion. My friend Becky has taken French lessons for many years…just because. She has made good use of it in her frequent travels to France. And at a luncheon with her class friends, they cooked and conversed…in French.

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I have a passion for many things, but not the patience to persevere long-term in most of them. Blogging…and being a wife and mother…have been the exceptions. I know for sure I’m not unique in this regard…”jack-of-all trades and master of none,” I mean. So my regard for Steve Jobs is two-fold. Until the end of his life, he pursued his passion with a vengeance. But the object of his pursuit is what left me in awe.

Technology leaves me…clueless. WordPress is the extent of my expertise, such as it is. How Jobs could fathom gobbledygook and harness it for global use, is way outside my realm of comprehension. The language alone is like Greek to me. URLs…permalinks…shortlinks…HTML…trackbacks…pingbacks. In a roomful of nerds, I would be the dummy struggling to regurgitate all the techno-speak swirling around me, and over my head. In a million years I would never have sat in on a brainstorming session with Jobs and his cronies. 

On the other hand, “Toy Story,” Jobs’ first Pixar creation is totally within my orb of intellectual understanding. And in tribute to the icon, hubby and I are sipping decaf coffee and munching on Buckingham Palace biscuits, a souvenir gift from friends…while settling in to watch the antics of…

Toy Story

…woody…buzz lightyear…and andy’s toys…my favorite legacy of…the man from apple…